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A sexless relationship called friendship

A sexless relationship called friendship

I have a friend, called Hannah, who has a very good friend called Mathew. Hanna and Matt are very good friends, they spend a lot of time together. He helped her move into her new house, they see each other at least once a week, they message each other every single day… you get the idea. We all think something is going on, but they say they are just friends. The other day a group of us met for dinner. Hannah and Matt came as well. We had a lot of fun and ate really good food.

Ellipsis: Part 3. A reflection.

Ellipsis: Part 3. A reflection.

As time goes by you get to know the real person and realize that all the qualities you gave to them are or are not true. With Mellow, that is what happened. At first I thought he was ideal for “friends with benefit” type of thing, then I had a moment where I thought he was boyfriend material. And as I got to know him more, I realized what an amazing person he is, but he is not the one for me. That is not because he did something wrong, no, not at all. I got to see his true s

Ellipsis: Part 2

Ellipsis: Part 2

“We need to talk” he said while rolling a cigarette. But what I was expecting did not happen. Half of me thought he was going to say this is the end of our friends with benefit thing. The other half of me was hoping he was going to say he was enjoying spending time with me. I was probably daydreaming way too much on that second one. But oh well, none of that happened, well actually all of that happened. “I love spending time with you but I am currently going through some stuf

Ellipsis

Ellipsis

I had been seeing this guy for a few weeks now. His nickname is Melo (read as “mellow”) which I find to be the perfect nickname for him. He is laid back, low key and super sweet! We had gone through a lovely rollercoaster in those weeks. He seemed like a good person, that is why when he asked me at one am to go to the middle of nowhere with him I said: let’s go! And we went. Ok, let’s rewind a bit. Tinder, Oh tinder. My profile is made up of two photos and what would be consi

Calling me pretty is not a compliment

Calling me pretty is not a compliment

I’m just going to say it. Not going to pee around the bush. Calling me pretty is not a compliment. I know some people say it with the best intentions. My grandma says it with the best intentions. However here is why I don’t take it as a compliment: I was born like this. This is my hair, these are my eyes, this is my nose and this is my mouth. I didn’t get to choose it and I didn’t do anything to have this face. Those thinking: “oh you are so full of yourself!” You can back of

How come I didn’t know?

How come I didn’t know?

Today’s post is brought to you by my two dear friends: Anna and Lucy! A few days ago we decided to meet, as we do weekly, to have a coffee. Online of course because #Lockdown. We chatted about our lives, politics, the economy and as well, men. So, basically we talked about all the things that were driving us insane at the moment. At one moment Anna told us she wanted to tell us something that had happened to her. We listened in silence. It seemed serious. We were obviously go

Trying Tuesday: A guide on how to impress the other person (and get laid after the quarantine).

Trying Tuesday: A guide on how to impress the other person (and get laid after the quarantine).

Are men too slow or am I too anxious? Dear people: I know we are on quarantine and you can’t go on an actual date with the person you fancy, but come on! Get creative. Get on first gear and let’s rock and roll! Share memes, talk on the phone, organize an online date. Don’t let that girl/guy slip by because you are too squared and can’t think of any idea on how to go on a date with her/him. So for today’s Trying Tuesday I am making (or trying to make) a guide on ways you can i

Trying Tuesday: Things I wish the guy I like already knew about me.

Trying Tuesday: Things I wish the guy I like already knew about me.

When you meet someone, discovering them is part of the charm of a new flame. However, I’ve been in the dating world for some time and sometimes, sometimes, I wish the guy I was talking to already knew all my defects. Why? You may ask. So we avoid the conversation: “You don’t like ice-cream?!”. I am 31, I have a lot of things to improve but I am not going to change for anyone because it took me a long time (and a lot of money in therapy) to finally love myself with all my shit

Trying Tuesday: Trying not to fall in times of a pandemic.

Trying Tuesday: Trying not to fall in times of a pandemic.

Today is Thursday! And I am posting Trying Tuesday because #PandemicTimesMeanCrazyTimes. I am trying different things for a week and then writing about it, some of the articles are coming together and I am loving the experiences and how much I am learning. However, something happened to me, unexpectedly, and it made me think about life. As I have mentioned earlier I have been on Tinder for a couple of weeks now. It has been a little over a week or so since I met a guy. He ins

Sleepy but happy

Sleepy but happy

I am tired but happy. Why? Because I slept one hour and a half. Let’s rewind to a few days ago. As I mentioned in previous posts, I’ve been on Tinder for a couple of weeks now. In these couple of weeks you always have some people with whom you match but talk once in a blue moon. They text you one day, three days later you reply and so on. It is not that you are not interested, it’s just how it flows, slowly but surely. I had been talking to a guy for a while now that way, ver

Trying Tuesday: Online dates in times of a pandemic

Trying Tuesday: Online dates in times of a pandemic

The world is going through horrible times, everyone please stay at home, let’s all be responsible and together we can fight this! Today is Trying Tuesday so what can we talk about today? Well the idea, as last week, was to post an article about Trying Cold Showers, which was a very interesting experience. However, in this last week some interesting things have been happening in the Tinder world, so let’s focus on that! One would suppose that given the situation Tinder would d

Update: You can be emotionally unavailable AND be an asshole.

Update: You can be emotionally unavailable AND be an asshole.

A while back I wrote a post wondering if a guy I knew was emotionally unavailable or an asshole. I thought these two were valid options given the situation I was living in, but it never occurred to me that you can actually be both, as I found out now. For last week’s Trying Tuesday I went on three dates on Tinder. You can read the article here. The last date went really well but then the pandemic happened. Obligatory quarantine, time to stay at home and be responsible. One wo

Trying Tuesday: Three Tinder Dates

Trying Tuesday: Three Tinder Dates

I’ve been single for a while now. I am not complaining, been loving it, had time to study and work a lot. My friends believe I am a workaholic so one day they convinced me to download Tinder in the spirit of Trying Tuesday. What is Trying Tuesday you may ask? Well every week I will try a different thing, makes life interesting plus I can share it with you all! So on today’s Trying Tuesday, I tried Tinder. I hadn’t decided to go on three dates only for this article, but after

Toxic relationships: why are they so hard to quit?

Toxic relationships: why are they so hard to quit?

W went back to his ex. Shocking? Not really. Annoying? Probably. Before going into what I feel about all of this, let’s recap the story. If you are wondering who W is, I recommend reading some of the posts about him, such as: “Emotionally unavailable or asshole?” and “Needy or strong?” He had been with his girlfriend for 8 years, that is a long time, at least according to my standards (I can’t pass the three year threshold but #GoingOffTopic). Eight years, that is a lot and o

Why do accountants and ex-partners always come back at the worst time?

Why do accountants and ex-partners always come back at the worst time?

My friend Anna used to have an accountant who worked very well at first but then the relationship went south. Anna is a person who likes to talk things through, but sadly with this accountant she felt she had to let her go. She felt bad because the account was doing her job badly due to some personal issues, but as I said to Anna: she shouldn’t mix personal with professional life. You can’t wait for weeks for an email reply from your accountant. Anna finally let her go and fo

Once a cheater, always a cheater?

Once a cheater, always a cheater?

In my previous post “The story of my boyfriend who had another girlfriend” I told my personal story. The response to this post made me wonder: Did my ex-boyfriend cheat on his girlfriend many more times? Was the saying “Once a cheater, always a cheater” true? I decided to ask around to see what people thought of the saying. My friend Mary had a very direct answer: “Yes, once someone is capable of crossing that line, they will have no problem crossing it again many times after

Keeping secrets or taking your time?

Keeping secrets or taking your time?

First of all I want to thank Feedspot.com for including my blog in their “Top 20 Feminist Blogs & Websites For Women in 2020”. It is truly an honor to even be considered to be up in this list with these amazing blogs, so thank you Feedspot! Now let’s dive into today’s post! I was at a bar when I suddenly started paying attention to the music. I heard the sentence “I don’t want to keep secrets to keep you”. It was from the song “Cruel Summer” by Taylor Swift and it made me won

Emotionally unavailable or asshole?

Emotionally unavailable or asshole?

I’ve read the book “He is not that into you”. What an interesting book, I must say that I agree with some parts, however, this concept that if the man doesn’t do exactly what we want him to do then he is simply not into us and he is being an asshole and playing us, is a concept that I found cruel and a bit general. It made me wonder about my own life. I was seeing a guy, who has appeared in some posts, and I have described him as emotionally unavailable. Was he playing me? Th

We can’t control our feelings, but we can give an answer, right?

We can’t control our feelings, but we can give an answer, right?

I have a friend, Anna, who believes in the power of words. She is a strong independent woman, with her own business and ready to declare her love when she feels it. She met a guy and fell in love. What did she do? She told him, but not in a subtle way. She went straight to him and said “I am in love with you”. He didn’t reply what we all wanted him to say, however, I admire Anna. What a strong woman, ready to be up front with her feelings. I was seeing a man who I really like

Do expiry dates exist for the heart?

Do expiry dates exist for the heart?

I was hanging out with some friends when one of them started talking about expiry dates. She said it seemed the more organic the product, the shorter the expiry date. And this made me wonder: does this same thing happen in relationships? The more organic and natural a relationship is, the more honest we are, the sooner the expiry date? If we “force things” can a love story last longer just because we want it to? Are there such things as artificial ingredients we can put in a

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